There would have been a time in my life when I would have thought that hobbies and faith/spiritual life should be kept separate. When I was younger – long before I looked deeper into my Catholic faith – I would wear different masks depending on what I was doing. When I was living at home with my mother, going to church every Sunday and going to prayer meetings, I was the “good Catholic boy”. When I was playing competitive sports with my friends or my brothers, I was the highly competitive, win-at-all-costs sportsman with the colourful vocabulary to boot. There was also “gamer Steve” who played online games, chatted with friends online whilst doing so and discussing things and behaving in ways that were very, very contrary to what my saintly Catholic teachers and mentors would expect of me. I eventually came to a realisation that I was hiding my Catholic faith from others when I wasn’t doing “churchy” things. It’s fair to say that I was a timid Catholic and lukewarm; Christ was not at the centre of every aspect of my life.
“Why not make Christ the centre of every aspect of my life? Why not bring Christ into my hobbies?” I thought to myself. There were certainly some hobbies and pastimes that I was participating in that were unnecessary time sinks and that I could very well leave behind. There were, however, hobbies and pastimes that got me out of the house and interacting with people. I was raised in a very cloistered environment where the only people I knew outside of my family and school were church people; other Christians. I don’t regret that one bit but it wasn’t until I got to university that I started meeting people of other creeds, backgrounds, religions, people who lean to the left on the political spectrum, those who lean to the right, etc.
I was annoyed at myself for not being so open with my faith and, at times, hiding it. Yes, my closer friends knew I was a Catholic and had what they described as “traditional values”, but when I was introduced to new people or within certain social groups, I did my best not to discuss my faith. I wasn’t denying my Catholicity, but I was definitely making it very hard for myself to witness and evangelise. Suffice to say I chose my moments very carefully when it came to discussing matters of faith and morals.
Thankfully, as the years have gone on, I’ve been able to speak more boldly and openly about my faith and I love telling people about how much my Catholic faith means to me. So again, “Why not use everyopportunity to share my faith?” So I made a decision: at every moment, give witness to Christ, whether by word or action. There’s a way of evangelising which won’t seem too “preachy” to your secular friends and that is, of course, through your actions and behaviour. As scripture tells us:
“Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” – Matthew 5:16
Let me give you an example…
I mentioned the game HeroClix earlier. It’s a superhero themed miniatures game, and I was never really into miniatures before I got into HeroClix. The person that got me into the game was a a friend of a mutual friend (let’s call him “Clark” just for convenience) who also happened to be Christian but of the “born again” variety. We were playing a game one afternoon where, out of the blue, he said, “Stephen, you’re probably the most Catholic Catholic I know”. Puzzled I looked back at him and asked, “What do you mean?” and he said, “Well, I know a lot of people that say they’re Catholic, but they don’t really do the Catholic ‘thing’ if you know what I mean”. Clark then went on to ask me, “So explain to me this then because I’ve never met a Catholic that could explain it in a way that makes sense: why do you guys worship Mary?” Suffice to say the conversation went on for a quite a bit after that. We finished our game somewhere between 1:30 and 2:00am  (two hours of actual play; three to four hours of impromptu Marian Dogma catechesis) and as Clark was showing me out he said, “I think I understand the Mary thing better now. I don’t agree with it, but I get why you guys do it now. ‘Hyperdulia’, right?”
Sometimes you don’t even need to say a word to start a discussion; you don’t need to start with words to evangelise. For me all it took was for someone to know that I was Catholic and by the grace of God I was about to give them the answers. For the times I do not have the answers, in humility I tell them, “I don’t know, but I will find out for you”.
Granted there have been times when some pretty heated discussions have arisen because someone has “discovered” my religious affiliation (e.g. “You’re a practising Catholic so therefore you must be a bigot”), but the key is to never be the aggressor and to take your ego out of it. Evangelisation is not about you or any effort you make. As scripture tells us:
“… but in your hearts reverence Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to make a defence to any one who calls you to account for the hope that is in you, yet do it with gentleness and reverence; and keep your conscience clear, so that, when you are abused, those who revile your good behaviour in Christ may be put to shame.” – 1 Peter 3:15-16
Your actions must also match what you believe in. This is key. We know how each other think; it’s in human nature to judge the behaviour of others to a certain benchmark. My friends and my gaming buddies know that I am a practising Catholic and therefore I am judged according to that standard; even they have certain expectations of me! Ponder this: what would my peers think of Catholicism if I was speaking and behaving in ways contrary to what our faith teaches? People are not stupid. How can others begin to take the Catholic faith seriously if its faithful are not behaving in ways indicative of the One True Church of Christ? While St. Paul says that we must “… become all things to all people” (1 Corinthians 9:19-23) and this is very important to consider when evangelising no matter what we are doing, we must also bear in mind this for ourselves:
“Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Are grapes gathered from thorns, or figs from thistles? So, every sound tree bears good fruit, but the bad tree bears evil fruit. A sound tree cannot bear evil fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Thus you will know them by their fruits.” – Matthew 7:15-20
Yes, become all things to all people, but do not suppress Christ. The Lord will give you the opportunities to share His goodness; do not be afraid to take them no matter where you are or what you’re doing. I love being a nerd and doing nerdy things, but not nearly as much as I love Christ and my Catholic faith.
Fear not.
Amen.
Excellent article! Though I focus on being myself-in-God while doing the things I love (including karaoke and cosplay) and I always worry that my efforts to evangelize are never good enough. When I bow out of a heated discussion as gracefully as possible and that nagging voice inside says, “You should’ve tried harder. You’re not witnessing to Christ,” or “It’s your fault they hate the Church,” I become very harsh and critical of myself in a way that’s excessive and, therefore, probably not of God. Worse yet, I worry my interests are wrong, as if liking manga is somehow inherently opposed to loving Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament. Thanks for the reminder that it’s not about having the right words but of living authentically in Christ and letting the light of that faith shine.
Steve,
Enjoyed you on JH.
Also have you ever played the miniatures game Holy Hack Hacking By the Book: Biblical Warfare?
Sincerely,
Phil
AMEN Stephen I’m an engineer by training an very logical, As you said let the Lord speak from your life as His Word comes from your mind and mouth. Thanks for your sharing
Thank you for your feedback, folks. Much appreciated. 🙂
Stephen, thanks for sharing. From what I read in scripture, we are told to be in God’s kingdom we must be “born of the Spirit”….born again. So to be Christan means to be born again, not of the flesh, but of the Spirit. Jn 3:3-8. And Peter said, “….since you have been born again-not of perishable seed but of imperishable- through the living and enduring word of God.” 1Pt 1:23. Thus, since we have the Holy Spirit working in us, the fruit of the Spirit will become more and more apparent in our lives as we grow in our Christian walk. I have learned that I can serve God wherever I am….our mission field is all around us. On the job, at the mall, at friends and family, and in our towns etc. I know what it is like to feel like I let God down by not saying anything, or not saying the right thing….but I learned, through others, that God’s plans are not deterred by my mistakes, and I pray for Him to help me know when to speak, and with the right attitude. We do stumble, but keep trying! Reading God’s word gives me the right words , I am looking to be more sensitive to the Spirit’s prompting…it is a life long process. God bless all of you fellow Christians, may God strengthen us and use us for His purposes in this culture…it is a spiritual battle!
Patricia, Amen to all you have said, but did you know that Catholics are also born again? We just doesn’t describe ourselves that way because it’s implicit in our faith. When we are baptised, we are born again. The fact of the matter is that the Catholic understanding to being “born again” differs to what Evangelicals believe, hence my emphasis when I spoke about my friend “Clark” in the article.
http://www.catholic.com/tracts/are-catholics-born-again
http://www.ignatiusinsight.com/features2007/mbrumley_bornagain_nov07.asp
Stephen, when I said all Christians are born again, that includes those in the Roman Catholic church….as in all churches, there are people who are not fully committed in faith, and others only of “said faith”, and others only there because it is the culture they are used to. I would like to know what you mean by your understanding of “born again” being different from other Christians. Thanks!